As a college student, I mostly try to avoid conflict by negotiation nicely,
but go back to when I was a teenager in high school, I can recall that I had a
major conflict with the supervisor of the dorm in my boarding school.
I was a freshman in high school, and it was my first time going to boarding
school, so as everyone, I had many complaints about the dorm restrictions and
rules. One of the rules was, we were not allowed to bring in blow dryers to our
dorm. The reason for that was, the blow dryer blows high temperature winds, and
may cause potential dangers such as a fire. I would have to agree that this
theory makes sense, but the chance of this accident happening was very small. It
was okay in the summer because it was hot and hair gets try fast, but as it was
getting cooler, it was almost a disaster for girls with long hair to not use the
blow dryer after hair-washing. However, our dorm supervisor was obdurate, she
explained that last year there was a girl who left her blow dryer on unattended
on her bed, and the sheet was burnt.
As we had no hope to overturn the rule,
we started to break it.I sneaked in my blow dryer and
used it, but the blow dryer was really loud when using, so I got caught a few
times. The first time, our dorm supervisor warned me, the second time she
was extremely mad, and believed I was being very disrespectful to her. I explained
that it was simply for my own convenience, and we ended up breaking into an major argument, she tried to grab the blow dryer from me, but I did not let her.
After several similar arguments between students, parents, and the dorm
supervisor, the rule was modified eventually. The dorm supervisor said she
would keep our blow dryers in her office, we might ask for it when needed, and return it
after using. This solution was inefficient as the dorm super visor was in
charge of around 40 students, but it was safe.
I do understand now that the dorm advisor was in charge of our safety,
and wanted to avoid every risky factors, but I think this issue could be avoid
if the rules was reasonable at the very beginning.